Power of Influence
A man looks to a woman for comfort and security. He needs to know he can trust his woman with the things that are important to him. While the man is the head of the home, the woman sets the atmosphere. She can even change the direction the man is going in — based on how she positions herself. Although a husband is the “head,” his wife is the “neck.” They move as one. She can either promote a healthy connection or a dysfunctional disconnection. The most powerful gift a woman has is the gift of influence. However, a man doesn’t want to feel like he’s being manipulated or “made.” A man responds to a woman’s affirmation; to her validation of him as a man. Her faith in him makes him want to scale the highest heights to earn her admiration and respect.
The Power of Humility
In today’s world, it’s said that men are intimidated by powerful women. I think that’s an excuse for some women who have ascended corporate ladders to behave badly. Men know that women are powerful. Their mothers teach them that. What men don’t like is a woman who throws her power in her man’s face. In other words, when she constantly makes a show of her achievements, her man finds it belittling — as if she’s comparing him to herself, and he’s coming up short. This attacks his masculinity, the core of who he’s supposed to be as a man. He strives to be a provider and protector; the one who adds to a woman’s world and contributes to her well-being. If he feels he’s failing in these areas, he’ll move on to another “situation” where he can feel like he’s succeeding. A man is willing to stand behind, support, and celebrate a powerful woman — only if that woman allows him to feel powerful too. If he isn’t financially successful, he needs to feel as if his presence makes a difference; that he’s needed in some capacity that affirms his masculinity. He willingly follows a woman into battle, if he knows she will allow him to get the spoils for her. My dear, if you’re successful, if you’re powerful, let those virtues speak for themselves. There’s no need for you to announce them. The fruit of your works will speak for itself … in a way that allows everyone (especially your man) to celebrate the successes. 
Draw Him Closer
Relationship expert Michelle McKinney Hammond shares the thoughts and feelings of men in the Bible regarding love and relationships. Written as letters to you, these remarkable men will help you discover how to win — and keep — a man’s heart. From David’s interaction with the diplomatic Abigail to Zachariah’s appreciation of a woman who listened to God — you’ll explore what makes a man feel safe with a woman, how to draw your husband closer, and much more!
