BY RENEE ALKINS
THE WORLD IS FULL OF SMART, beautiful, successful women who aren’t married. And many of them blame the dating pool for spitting out pitiful men. But, is that really the case? After chatting with several ladies, we noticed nine reasons they might still be single. Do any of these apply to you?
1) You’re Not Fully Honest
People often ask unmarried women, “Why aren’t you married?” This never-ending question can be offensive and annoying. After a while, single women tend to lie to protect themselves: “It’s not for me.” “I don’t want to be married.” “I’m too busy for that.” – Yet, deep down inside, they want to be married very badly. If this describes you, just be honest. Tell those (nosey) people that you haven’t met the right person, and ask if they know someone suitable.
Proverbs 18:21 teaches, “What you say can mean life or death. Those who speak with care will be rewarded” (New Century Version).
2) You’re Overly Critical
You might call it “being honest” or “keeping it real,” but men call it being a nag. No one wants to come home to a grumpy, argumentative, and critical wife. Like women, men want a spouse who will encourage them. They desiresomeonetheycanenjoylifewith. Men aren’t interested in marrying their bratty sister. So, take a deep breath, and reveal your fun-loving side.
Proverbs 21:19 cautions, “Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife” (New International Version).
3) You Listen to Bad Advice
Despite their intentions, our friends can give bad advice. Therefore, it’s important to open your brain, while opening your ears. If you have a friend who’s an “expert” on men – but she’s never had a successful relationship with one – why do you keep taking her advice?!?!?
Proverbs 14:15 states, “Fools believe every word they hear, but wise people think carefully about everything” (Easy-to-Read Version).
4) You’re Waiting for the Impossible
The perfect man doesn’t exist, so stop waiting for him. The goal isn’t to find a flawless partner. The goal is to marry someone who you’re compatible with – spiritually, emotionally, physically, and mentally. Moreover, while a man isn’t a “project” to be worked on, a wife should make her husband stronger ... and more perfect.
Genesis 2:18 explains, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him” (New International Reader’s Version).