5) You Date for Fun
Why are you dating men you would never marry? Dating to satisfy boredom and loneliness is a sure way to end up with the wrong guy. We all know women who “accidentally” threw away years, fell in love, and got pregnant by “Mr. Waste My Time.” While you’re hanging out for fun, “Mr. Right” might see you, and assume that you’re taken. Therefore, date with a sense of purpose.
1 Thessalonians 5:6 urges, “Let us not be like the others. They are asleep. Instead, let us be wide awake and in full control of ourselves” (New International Reader’s Version).
6) You Give the Cow, Milk, and Farm Too Soon
If you want to be someone’s wife, stop playing the role before you get the vow. A lot of men will take what they can get – without paying the price for it. In essence, don’t live with him, do his laundry, clean his home, cook his meals, and satisfy him sexually until you’re his wife. Why would someone pay for milk, if they can get it for free?
Matthew 7:6 advises, “Don’t give something that is holy to dogs. They will only turn and hurt you. And don’t throw your pearls to pigs. They will only step on them” (Easy-to-Read Version).
7) You Believe the Hype
Yes, the statistics about marriage aren’t great. And, yes, many of your friends have not-so-wonderful stories. But, you can live a different life. Instead of fearing other people’s experiences, learn from them. Pay attention to what hasn’t worked, and use the Word of God to make your marriage better.
In Isaiah 41:10, the Lord said, “Do not be afraid – I am with you! I am your God – letnothingterrifyyou!Iwillmakeyou strong and help you” (Good News Translation).
8) You Don’t Want to Be Married
Being single is okay. A woman can live a meaningful life without a husband. Mother Teresa did – she never got married, and her efforts touched the world. But, if you’re no “Mother Teresa” (you need physical affection, human companionship, and romantic intimacy), you should get married.
1 Corinthians 7:9 suggests, “Tell the unmarried ... if they can’t manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married. The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single” (The Message Bible).
9) You’re Tired of Being Hurt
Don’t allow a painful relationship or divorce to keep you single. The wall built around your heart is only hurting you. Fear isn’t a reason to block love, and no “ex” should keep you from loving again.
Joshua 1:9 encourages, “Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go” (New Living Translation).