That night we talked, not just about my day, but about anything and everything we could think of. We never even turned on the TV — we had so much catching up to do! “What changed?” I realized later that the problem had not been a lack of romance or love or friendship. We had simply forgotten to remind each other that we still felt those things. I had long deluded myself into believing that my husband should constantly pursue me. But the truth was that he needed me to pursue him, too. I don’t think we’re the only couple that has fallen into complacency and needed resuscitation. In fact, we need it on a regular basis. I’ve enjoyed finding new ways to liven things up. I’ve found that the simplest actions show him how I feel, far better than my words can. And I can see the difference in him. He is more confident and happy in the evenings. He plans more dates. Our marriage has come alive again. If you find that your marriage also needs CPR, try moving towards your husband with these simple tips. Remind him that …
You Love Him Send him a love letter via snail mail. Write about a special memory, or tell him what you love about him. He’ll never expect to find a message from you in the mail!
You Think of Him When a song comes on the radio that reminds you of him, send it his way. You could send him a link to the YouTube video or even make him a mix CD full of songs.
You Are Happy to See Him The end of the day can be a hectic time — there’s dinner to think of, children to shuttle, and tired feet to rest. But greeting your husband when he walks through the door is an easy way to make him feel welcome.
You Are Thankful for Him Write 52 reasons you are thankful for your husband on a stack of notecards, and give them to him as a gift. The process will strengthen your appreciation for your husband and draw him closer to you.
You Think He’s Sexy Next time you give him a kiss, keep your lips locked for a little while longer. Reminding him that you enjoy him physically will immediately build his confidence.
You Think He’s Awesome Brag about your husband! “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down, but a good word makes it glad” (Proverbs 12:25). Let everyone know how awesome your hubby is, and watch his self-assurance grow.
You’re Proud of Him Whether you realize it or not, your husband craves your respect. Author Steve Hall said, “The truest form of love is how you behave toward someone, not how you feel about them.” Telling your husband that you are proud of him will show him that he has your respect.
You’re Into Him Say his name when you say, “I love you, _____.” Too often, this simple phrase becomes little more than a cliché. Take time to look into his eyes, say his name, and let him know you mean it.
You Want to Be Close to Him On your next date night, sit on the same side of the table. This will be a great way to pursue intimacy with him. He will love resting his hand on your knee while you chat.
You Care About His Needs Give him time for himself. Sometimes, your husband needs to pursue his own hobbies or relax with the guys. Suggest that he takes next Saturday to do things he loves.