If a friend asks you to attend a function (but you’re exhausted, or you just don’t feel at peace about going), say this:
“I really can’t make it. But, if you find someone else to go with you, please let me know that you made it home safely.”

If someone asks you to borrow money (that you can’t lose, or don’t feel led to give), respond with this:
“I’m working hard toward certain financial goals. So, although I hope you find a solution, I’m unable to give or loan you the money.”

It’s important to be prepared! Therefore, write down – and rehearse – ways to say “no” to common requests that cause stress and chaos in your life. Don’t be caught off guard, and never feel guilty about protecting your heart, health, and life’s purpose. You’re not called to be the solution to everyone’s problem – that’s God’s job.

If You Mean It, Say It
If you’re serious about setting boundaries, and becoming everything God has called you to be, recite this commitment:

I cannot change someone else’s life; but I can change myself, and the choices I make. Beginning today, I am going to consistently focus on making intentional choices based on my life’s purpose – not guilt, fear, anger, or insecurities. Beginning today, I will not be afraid to set boundaries.